Kelly Gibbons, artist and writer, about me

Tuesday, November 09, 2004

Did you ever notice how many people love to suck the joy from you?

Why do people have an urge to do this. I so wish that they would listen to what is taught in childhood, "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all."

Or at least if you are going to say something rotten, do you think maybe that you could follow the positive, negative, positive rule? If you don't know what this is, it means say something positive, then in a nice way state what was wrong, and then follow up with a positive suggestion. Tell me how wonderful I am before you crush my ego, thanks.

The world would be a much better (happier, nicer) place if we could all follow this rule. Of course the "Negatives" will probably find a way to spread their venom anyway.

BTW, this is not written in response to a negative comment (so far I've been lucky). And I know by writing that, some law ( Murphy's maybe?), says that a negative comment is sure to follow.

It is also not in response to the really crappy rating some ANONYMOUS person gave me at Blog Explosion. Which I really found funny, because I had no idea when I signed up that I was going to be judged. Let me state for the record, I would not have joined if I had known I was going to be rated. I noticed today that that feature is down (part of it anyway), so I guess there were a few others that didn't take a liking to it. As I noted over at Toni's, I do not do well in popularity contests.

It is an indirect response to a so-so review I received at work. I don't have all the details yet, so I am trying not to pass too much judgment (repeating in my head, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all). The reason I am so bothered by the review is two-fold. First, I really like my job (and as usual, their is someone to suck the fun out of it), and second, there were crazy circumstances today that the reviewer should have taken into consideration. Oh wait, there's another reason (does that make it a tri-fold?). I have had zero training, and not once has anyone ever told me that I was doing something wrong. Not in a mean way or a nice way. If I don't know the rules, how can I expect to play the right way?

BLAAAAAHHH! I feel better now that I vented.

After this happened today, it hit me how often this happens. And I'm just gonna say it, that sucks. Think about it, we are all guilty of it. For example, someone shares good news, and you are just a wee bit jealous, have you ever pointed out something negative in the news (just to burst their bubble)? I'm sure you can point out many times that this has happened to you. I know I can. In so many little ways this happens all the time. I only wish I could figure out what pleasure someone gets by ruining another person's happiness.

posted by Kelly @ 11/09/2004 04:18:00 PM

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